I suspect that my ways of hedonistic pursuits may ultimately cause me to appear dastardly.

Perhaps so, in retrospect. Sometimes I wonder if my enthusiasm to be in the presence of those dear to me comes off merely as lonely desperation, although that is far from the truth. Alas, I fear many may avoid my company because of it.

Story of my life.

Despite my best intentions at mingling with fellow gentleman and ladies, it seems I am more often than not cast aside for my more quiet demeanor.

I am a man who happily indulges in a game of pool or other such activity, but I may not speak more than what is required of me. Please let there be no mistake, it's not as if I am not enjoying myself. I am one who talks little, but when I say something it is usually of importance.

This in effect makes me seem ungrateful or bored compared to what they expect. They lack the nerve and the patience to see that though I may not always show it with words and gestures of the like, that simply does not mean I'm not enjoying myself. If a gentleman like myself wasn't enjoying himself he couldn't keep coming back would he?

So yes, often I am seen as a Blaggard who doesn't like or appreciate the enjoyment of the finer activities. It is quite the opposite and I enjoy the hedonistic endeavors that I take part in, but I suppose I have some difficulty in conveying the joy I receive.

>>146
My Good Fellow! We are each as of a pair, I must say. I often feel that my passions or enthusiasm for a situation if shown to their true extent would be rather too unseemly, and so irony of ironies, I am cast in a rather laconic light in others' eyes. This is all much to my chagrin.

>>146
You sir, are confused.
When you speak I am most certain it is not of any importance to the fine gentlemen and so claimed "ladies" you surround yourself with.
Simply because you speak as often as it rains in California, does not mean your remarks are of any value to other's ears.

But I must add, I do not want to come about as rude or full of malice.
I simply believe that gentlemen such are yourself see themselves as more important than others only because you have the audacity to speak only when "important."
Well, friend, steady conversations and various mingling talks with others daily is of importance for true gentlemen.

>>159
Might I propose that you are equally perplexed? Although I am not the man in question, I am confident in saying that you have drawn many stray conclusions from from a rather general and unspecific tale. As he is relating his difficulties in conversation, let me offer that perhaps 'necessary' would have been a better fit than 'important'. There are many ways of expressing oneself non-verbally, and so perhaps when he feels it is 'necessary' to utter something that cannot be divulged otherwise, he does so. Some people are weak of muscle or nervous of injury, so I find that I am in tongue; it is both taxing and vexing to me sometimes. Not because of some silly notion that my words are anything like a precious commodity, but rather that they are more difficult to deliver. (And if so trying to deliver, why not make the best of those words?) Perhaps it is you who place too much importance where there is little?

To put my two pence in as it were, I find that in this ingenious era of technology and communication, people have lost the meaning of words. That is, not to say they dont understand their language (though it is certainly true to some) but rather the gravity of words when attributed to real meaning. I find most today blather on just to speak. And that is fine for small talk or when sharing banter with the commonplace people of society. Yet i am not one to waste peoples time in pointlessly blathering on about everything under the sun, there are enough people who do that.

The problem that we people of meaning have is that very often i find when we decide to speak that people will not understand exactly what we say, how we mean it, and have a short attention span to let us explain if we need to.

It is often found that people who throw words carelessly and ride out their usage like a flying parasite, often do not listen or notice as much as one who observes and thinks more than talks.

It is therefore that a gentleman of few words must accept that people will make unjust assumptions (it is because you do not divulge every thought in your head), yet it is imperative that you do not try to conform to their auditory flim-flammery. it is good to have the verbal skills when necessary to hold a conversation or be heard when you must, but to always be heard with no ounce of meaning is far worse than to hardly be heard with clarity, meaning and truth.

As far as comming off as a blaggart, it isusually when i make haste in decisions without understanding the full picture, or wen people misunderstand my meaning.

Yet I know i am the truest of sirs and I often let people think what they like about me.

Sometimes sir inquisitor , sometimes.

>>189
>>160
Both of you have presented your arguments well, and worded them in such a way that I took great pleasure in reading them. However, I feel as though you've both put far too little emphasis on the importance of networking; in an attempt to cultivate an air of sophistication, you've instead outed yourself as socially inept.


As one who often finds great difficulty in remaining confident, I sympathize with your plight, but I do not consider it justified. You would do well to read up on conversation, and even better to practice it with those whom you'll rarely see again. A cashier, a tour guide, even a stranger at a bus stop are all excellent opportunities to hone your skill.

Of course, I would not presume to direct your life in any way other than that of your own choosing; please take my disjointed ramblings for what they are. I seek only to enrich your life and suggest you study the art of conversation, which should be well known to any who considers himself a gentleman.

>>116
I do. But I have found out a quite clever solution: Less talking. I consider my speech to be a bladed weapon. Not that it is sharp or anything. But no matter how beautiful the weapon is, carrying it unsheathed in public will cause me troubles. Less is simply more.

>>214
It may indeed be true that I am socially inept with the masses, but ah there's the rub; for although I do not disdain the common man it is quite drastic in contrast with which the ease of words come when I find myself matched with a like mind. This is not merely a question of intellect, as a sharp but dusty and haughty man will rouse no life from me. However, a man of certain but unfortunately rare character I can spot in an instant and we are like two old chums just as quickly. I feel that the only reason there is lacking in me socially is that I have never been socially in such a gathering of fellows. In short, is one a bad fox hunter if there are so few foxes in the wood?

>>218
I fear your problem is not a lack of foxes, but rather an old hound. What is it that you consider so unique about your own character that none can seem to reach you? Certainly, with your participation on this forum dedicated to pleasant conversation, you've demonstrated that you find some pleasure in sociability; but why, then, would you propose such a double standard in the meatspace realm?

Surely, we are not all such paragons of wittiness and charm that by some divine circumstance we all are of your preferred sort. There are foxes all around you, but if you insist on taking only those particular specimins as match your fancy, you will return with a poor harvest indeed. I strongly suggest you expand your horizons of what you consider an acceptable partner in conversation, as not all will feel as though they must bend to your will.

Which is, after all, what you seem to expect of others. If they are not of your particular preferred sort of companion, do you really think to write them off at once, as if they are somehow imperfect? Truly, you will miss many fine friends and acquaintances if you do not put the required time in to know them well. I believe you will find that most, though not all of those who walk the earth are indeed pleasurable conversation, if only for a short while.

>>216
That is so well put. You have changed my life for ever. Such beautiful imagery and truth. What a keen weapon, sir. ;)

Good sir OP, I do believe you share my feelings exactly, its like I'm this shy demure lass trapped in an oafish buffoons body. It makes me quite morose daily.

>>216
Perhaps you are just narcissistic (1) and it is, in fact, other facets of your identity that come across as obnoxious

1: http://samvak.tripod.com/journal34.html

>>226
I grow my vocabulary to suit my purposes. No more, no less.