Hay guise. Long time lurker, first time poster. I've run into an issue with my ex that I could really use some advice on. First up, some history. This goes all the way back to high school, in the late 90's. I dated this girl, and all seemed well. We were dumb kids, doing dumb kid things. You know how it goes. However, she decided that she could do better a couple of times. When those "relationships" failed, she came back to me. Being a dumb kid, I couldn't see that I was little more than a safety net for her.

And then she met the landwhale douchenozzle. And who did she call to complain about him yelling at her and berating her time and time again? Yup, you guessed it. Dumb kid me. However, I did smarten up enough to see that she wasn't going to be leaving him anytime soon. So I began the process of getting her out of my life in a peaceful and amicable way.

Yeah... that didn't work.

So she attempted to hook me up with a friend of hers. While on the date, the friend informed me that she wasn't looking for a boyfriend. Looking back on it now, it was a pretty piss poor lie intended to spare my feelings. She failed. Being a dumb kid, I got pissed. Like really pissed. And so I blamed my ex. And so I called her and we had an argument. And by argument I mean that I yelled at her very loudly over the phone. Looking back, I shouldn't have done that, but hindsight is 20/20. After that, we did not talk for a long time. I was glad to be rid of her.

Fast forward a year or so, and I get a call. She tells me that she was arrested for fraud. She was apparently working on commission at an electronics store and fudging the numbers to get a larger commission on her sales. They took her out in handcuffs. I don't think she spent much time inside. Douchenozzle must have bailed her out. Once again, there was a long period of no communication. Bliss.

There were a few other attempts from her to communicate with me. They never panned out, thankfully.

This brings us to this week. My dad told me that he got some strange messages on Facebook from her. She said that she was sorry for what douchnozzle had done to me and our family and that she is divorcing him. This confused us because he had done nothing to us at all. So more out of curiosity than anything else, I gave my dad the OK to tell her to text me. And so she did just that, this afternoon. Here's what went down.

They got married sometime in '06, and have had a daughter together. He never stopped being a douche and continued his psychological warfare. I don't think he ever hit her, or if he did, she's keeping it to herself. They went to counseling and the counselor sided with her. Somehow he has her daughter in his custody, which is a mistake because that guy is an ass. She wants her daughter back with her, which, in this case, I'm with her. No child should be raised by that guy. Ever.

So I had to press her a bit for what the hell she was talking about with my dad. But she finally did tell me. Apparently, back in '06 he apparently told her that after our (my) loud phone conversation after that failed date, he got his buddies and came to my house and beat up both me and my older brother in front of my father. This, of course, never happened. My brother is a black belt in tae qwon do, and there is a cop living across the street from us. He would have been in prison and sued had that happened. So he lied there, which I believe he would do. What I don't believe is when she told me that he wouldn't let her follow up on his lie. But that's just me.

So here's where I need the advice. I have no intention of having any further relationship with this woman. I really don't relish having to raise another guy's kid. Part of me wants to be as cold as possible and tell her off once and for all. But the other half wants to let her down easy. What do?