If the girl isn't letting you talk to her it's gonna be tricky. Try inviting the group - maybe you and your roommates are throwing a party, or some club event. Try and meet her in an informal setting. If it's a small college, you might run into her anywhere, strike up a conversation.

Also alot of asian women are terrible in bed and need substantial coaching.

I see...well it's not like she entirely shuts me out. I only always get the chance to talk to her when others are around. We are in the same program and it's been a year since we met each other so its not like we are entirely strangers. She used to be more open and just recently she's gotten like that around me.

Ask her out? The worst case scenario is she goes back to Japan. Getting involved with someone who might be leaving is an emotional sacrifice. So whether she wants you to or not, asking her out would be a kind act. You should feel better about yourself for doing it.

I guess son never really thought of all of that. But you are right, there is nothing to lose. I guess I was just afraid of coming on too strong.

>>3193

>The worst case scenario is she goes back to Japan.

Thank you, you have made my life a lot more enjoyable.

Okay, so I ended up talking to her more and she plans to stay in the States. I decided to get a hair cut and today in class, all the girls and everyone else tell me I got a nice cut, etc. She doesn't say anything about it, but tells it to another classmate..?

You just have to pay attention to cultural differences. Eastern women are much more passive, not like western women who will get bored of waiting and make the first move themselves. The fact that shes ignoring you sounds like she likes you. If she didn't care about you she'd treat you just the same, but she's being especially careful to come off as a nice, quiet, respectful girl around you. And in that culture it's much more important to look polite and average than to look unique and outspoken. Maybe read up about individualistic vs collectivist cultures to get more of an idea where you two differ. It's easy to misread people as being rude when you don't understand their culture.

If she's staying in the states it probably means she wants to learn more about American culture than be emulated for her culture. Perhaps her intention was to rebel?

So no, I don't think you should approach this with anything other than your normal persona.

Honestly if you want to get in her pants, you should watch overhyped Hollywood fare, so as to fulfill her fantasy of what an American man is. Find out what kind of movies she's into. That will give you a clue as to her mating preferences. Does she like sparkly vampire types, or brooding suicidal types, or blond haired jock, or clownface rapper, etc? Although, in the time you spend doing this you could have probably already gotten her.

Dude, your in college. You can't spend all your time lusting after just one girl. As a man you aren't even encouraged or expected to do so. I used to message a different girl before the one I liked, which also made it easier to message the latter, due to the law of conservation of stress.

>>3205
This guy has the right idea. You could give her good old Western alcohol. Then tell her that drinking will make her look old, fat and dumber, take her drink away, tell her you do better and make you hornier, aroused and *go in for the kissed* satisfied instead. It begins.

Oh wow, my topic's still here?

Anyway, OP here. I ended up asking her for her number and we went out on Sunday, but it was a group date. I asked her to go out again on Saturday, she agreed but she wanted to bring a mutual friend of ours, who came with us on Sunday.

My friend declined in an attempt for it to be us two, but the girl said she was busy instead. But my friend tells me she really wants to go, but doesn't want to go alone?

Am I boned or she just really shy?

Well if your (or her) friends are in on it, there's a good chance it will work. Asian chicks are big on the peer pressure thing.

>>3216
Can someone explain why girls are big on the 'bring a friend' thing?

There's this chick I'm interested in that wants to do the same thing. Does she think I'm going to rape her or something? Does she think it's going to be boring?

And my ex says she wants to hang out if we can do things as part of a group - like badminton with other friends. What's up with that? Fuck it I have balls I'll just ask them.

>>3220

Girls who want dudes ask their girlfriends if there are any guys they know. She's either trying to set you up, or wants her girlfriend's opinion of you in some respect she is unsure of.

Always try to hit it off with their friends. I dated this one girl, and the only reason it lasted as long as it did, was because her best friend kept repping me up to her.

>>3216
>>3220
>>3222

You don't have to have sex, snog, or cement the relationship right away. Relax a little, there's no rush so long as you've got your wits about you. One on one can be quite intense anyway,