Consider that your girlfriend was off her meds for more than half of your relationship, that she was depressed and stressed for just under half of it, and that your experiences with her are hardly encyclopedic or even fully definitional at this point.

Rapprochement should not be confused for new interest, but if you and her can re-establish a strong friendship and base of trust and care, sure, why not?

At this time, however, all you have to go on is a small amount of evidence that she's unhappy, which is unsurprising given the history you've described.

My typical caveat in situations like this is that unhealthy people have unhealthy relationships. If you want to make an attempt to re-connect with her romantically, be prepared for it to fail miserably in a similar way to before. After all, you will not fix her—nor can or should you—and so ultimately your decision about what to do has to be based on a notion of what will be best for her, a notion arrived at with unselfish contemplation and deep thought.

Better to put her solidly as a friend for the time being, if you must. Hold on to the love, but understand that sometimes you are not the best answer, no matter how badly you want to be.

I think you misread it as nine months instead of a year and nine months, but I understand what you're saying, and it still applies. I by no means fully know her, and since it was over half a year ago that we broke up I've surely romanticized her in my mind.

Thank you for the advice. I'm hopeless when it comes to things like this. I'll try my best to take it, and I'll post if anything happens.

>>3032 You're right, I did.

So the lack of certainty doesn't apply as much in terms of your history then, but I think the best approach here is one of caution. I don't think you should necessarily rule anything out at this time, so much as proceed with a circumspect and conservative approach until you have more information on the situation.

Disclaimer: I am bad at being people.

I'd try saying or messaging something like "I miss you too, and I really preferred the peace I had with you to what I've got going on now. Give me a call or a text or come see me at ____ anytime, and we'll talk about it. :) I'm really glad you think I get you; " and then if it's true, "I like talking with you. The more we talk and spend time together the more sure I am... I could do that forever."

Also, oddly enough, in an ideal relationship, some kinds of trust are not necessary. Friendship is. My definition of true love is 'friends with the best benefits' - no responsibilities other than staying and keeping each other safe, unintense, and happy. I am boring and like being boring. This might not apply to your situation, but I highly recommend it. :)

So I waited until yesterday to message her again. It was a goodbye message because I couldn't deal with waiting on a call anymore. Instead we ended up texting and ultimately talking on the phone. As it turns out she was just mad at him at the time of the first call, so we're just going to be friends, at least that's how it seems. That's fine by me since it was my original aim in contacting her. Talking to her helped though. It made me idealize her less, which might help me to move on. We'll see though. I appreciate the help you guys gave, and will probably be back sooner or later with other relationship woes.