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2817 No. 2817
I'm having an issue with my girlfriend. She wants to be involved in everything, and have everything I do explained to her. We've been dating for two years, and it's reached a boiling point. Non-stop fighting about how I must not love her because I just don't tell her things. I don't know what to do. I'm not used to having to explain EVERYTHING I do, all the time. For instance I had to move my truck off the street the other day. I just got my keys and coat, went outside, and moved it onto my property. Well, it apparently bothered her immensely, that I didn't explain what I was doing. I was gone for literally five minutes.

I've never really wanted a facebook, but some friends finally convinced me to make one. My girlfriend has one, but all her friends/family despise me, so I didn't invite her as a friend because I don't want them seeing my profile. This got to be such an issue, that I recently to deleted it. Before doing so though, we had a discussion (heated argument) about what she wanted me to do with it. She wasn't very clear, and I guess now she's pissed that I deleted it. I cannot figure her out.

She's taken issue with my sexting other people, recently. She's NEVER had an issue with it before. She texts her ex-husband all the time (no, they aren't fucking), and tells him everything about me, but now my limited sexting is a problem. I've stopped this all together, now.

I' am SO emotionally supportive of her, it's sickening sometimes. I've tried to address her complaints; explaining more to her, talking to her about EVERYTHING, involving her more - but it's never enough. I re-downloaded DoTa 2 because I'm bored. She hates that game, and hates that I play it but offers no alternative. We used to play WoW on a private server, but stopped when I started working again. We've talked a lot about starting it up again, but I'm busy with school now. I really can't devote 8 hours a day to playing WoW, anymore. She never uses her computer for anything but playing movies to lull her to sleep, anyway.

We have a 5 month old kid together, so leaving isn't an option. Help, /docta/.
>> No. 2818
You should probably try to apply 'Non-Violent Communication' to your relationship. If you do, it means that you can help your girlfriend as well as you; which basically will save time arguing.

Often arguing and talking is just a cover for really obvious and blatant things. A degree of talking, explaining, and justifying is fine, but you do not have to explain or justify everything.

It'd probably be super helpful if you both saw a relationship counsellor together.
>> No. 2827
Yeah, couples' counseling.


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