Dear docta,

Once upon a time I had a few serious relationships, and quite a lot of casual ones as well - what they had in common was that I had a ton of free time for that, first in college, then working only part-time doing some freelancing.

I had a breakup quite some time ago, and now that I'm working a full time office job (my freelancing wasn't very successful) I just can't find time or energy to really focus on finding any girls (either serious or casual), and nothing seems to be happening on its own.

How do people deal with that?