I am by far not an expert so these are just my two cents:
First of all, you are not a minority. People with high sex drives and multiple partners have little to no love. People who love each other show it in other ways, like doing something romantic together, they actually bang each other less frequently than you think.

You seem to lack empathy. My own advice, which I personally fail at, but maybe it might work on you:
-Get a pet (or a plant)
-Learn to love it, talk to it, pet it, feed it, care for it.

>>2645

Thanks for telling him you're not an expert, dude. I mean, nobody would've guessed.

OP, your problem is you're fooling around with immature twats. Only stupid little girls who haven't grown out of their college years care this much about other peoples' opinions of who they date. Unfortunately, it is common for American women to hold onto this conceit well into their fifties, so you may be looking for a while.

Oddly enough, your best bet may be craigslist. The few actual women that post there almost uniformly have the same problem you do, so you're quite likely to find somebody who is at least interested in actual emotional intimacy, even if it doesn't work out in the long run.

Clearly there is something about you that attracts girls that aren't looking for a relationship. So take a long time to yourself and try to cut out the usual girls for a while. People feel what you feel, so try to look deep within yourself to make some changes. At least try to mix up your habits and just do things differently for a while. Maybe travel for a while to shake off the manwhore rep.

Then, seek the professional advice from some guys who know more about these sticking points than us, like the guys at Real Social Dynamics. Check youtube.


>>2646
you serious? Shit on his advice and then tell OP to hit up craigslist?

>You seem to lack empathy.
Not at all. I'm a very empathetic person, sometimes to a fault. I wear my heart on my sleeve and will drop anything to be there for my friends. I'm pretty sure I don't need a plant to cure me of sociopathy (which I certainly am not!)

> Unfortunately, it is common for American women to hold onto this conceit well into their fifties, so you may be looking for a while.

Tell me about it....

>Oddly enough, your best bet may be craigslist.

.....You're joking, right? Maybe OKCupid, but.... Craiglist?

>>2652
This sounds like some sound advice. I might go out Saturday with a woman who I've known for a bit, but who doesn't have much contact with any of my main social circle, so I doubt she's heard any stories from any of my chick-friends about my Charlie Sheen-esque exploits (and furthermore, my lack of relationship history). Still, I will continue to reflect on myself and what I need to do to show people that I'm not just some player with a bad case of sexual compulsion.

Yes, I'm dead serious about going to craigslist.

Women of okcupid: average. In other words, status still matters to them.

Women of craigslist: desperate. They wouldn't be there if they weren't starving for genuine human connection. It is true that this means they might be crazy, but you will eventually find somebody you can be comfy with.

Everytime I've ever met a girl from okcupid, hoping for a meaningful relationship based on our common interests and beliefs, she's dumped me the day after we fucked.

Everytime I've ever met a girl on craigslist, hoping for a quick fuck or maybe a FWB, I've wound up with an adoring girlfriend. True story man, I promise.

"You're ugly, I just fucked you because I heard from others that you had a nice dick. People would think I'm crazy for dating you."

Not all women are always looking for a long term relationship. Okay, I'm sure that you are all of these good qualities; but there's a good chance that you're one considered as one of those guys. What do I mean by that? One of those guys that's pleasant and good in bed; short term. The way that you have learnt to exist in your particular context has pushed you into the realm of casual sex. This sentence, apart from the first two words, is correct and what you need to pay attention to. I know it sounds like some sort of daft rule that people would think her crazy, but if you are that guy "have sex with him he's got a nice dick", then it means that these people don't think of you as that guy that has a nice EVERYTHING.

I have some ground breaking advice here.

You can say no to sex.

And you have to start saying no to sex. I mean what about your feelings? Surely it's actually hurting you to be in this position. And people are incredibly good and landing particular roles. Have sex with three people in a month and suddenly; you'll fuck anything! you're the village bicycle, etc.

You seem to equate sex with relationships, as if your ability to get sex should equal an ability to get a girlfriend. You have to learn how to do things differently now.

I would also suggest looking outside of this circle of people that see you this way, because it's probably very sustaining.

>>2652
Might have something here. Maybe you attract a certain type of girl. It seems like you illicit a specific sexual type of reaction from girls. This is not inherently bad, but it leads to obviously sexual feelings. Maybe postponing sex would help, like another poster said. I actually have a friend who is like you and when he postponed sex, it just never really worked out. He became friends with the girls but it never really lead to anything. He has not given up hope, however. I would advise you to do the same.