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No. 2596
There isn't much difference if you decide to have sex with this man or not. You will be in a relationship with someone that can't (or won't?) satisfy you either way. Your boyfriend will not change and you will probably have to hide this from him. A lot of people would deem this as a violation; it would be a good way to make you look like the 'bad guy' when you're actually the victim.
>i'm not sexually satisfied anymore. I've told him how I felt but it didn't improve the situation. I asked for some time.
Honey if this is how you told him about your feelings then no wonder it didn't help. You need to be a bit more specific here and tell us what you told him and how you told it to him. The impression I get is that you've mentioned that sex isn't that good and you've now taken it upon yourself, and decided in isolation, that you should have sex with someone else. If you're not satisfied anymore, then what has changed? Have you thought about HOW you told him about your feelings and the effect that had? You asked him for some time? How long? and what time? Are you on a break from your relationship? Is he leaving you alone for a week?
In fact, what about him?! What about how he feels? If you tell me he doesn't give a shit about your satisfaction, I'm going to tell you to run a mile. Is he satisfied? Does he have a spine or any muscles? Can he move? Is he inanimate? Seriously your post just makes it sound like you've been in a relationship with someone that you don't care about. Not to do with the affair, but just the way that you explain the situation.
Are there other issues apart from sex? Is your relationship a complete bliss aside from sex?
Is he satisfied anymore? Has he ever been? Have you ever been? What has changed? Is it HIS fault you're not sexually satisfied?
Did you tell him how you feel? How did you tell him about your feelings? Did he understand and make a commitment to improve? Did he laugh and call you stupid?
Do you find this person you met attractive? Is this about happiness and pleasure, or is this hedonism that is about conquest? This sounds to me like it is 100% about conquest, like there's not an element of joy in it, am I right? DO YOU ENJOY ANYTHING ABOUT EITHER OF THESE PEOPLE OR YOURSELF?!
Would your boyfriend mind if you had sex with this man once/regularly? Why do you think that this would help? Have you been 'cheated on', or a 'cheater' before?
Do you have any reason to be unhappy in the relationship, and in your life?
You don't have to answer these questions to me, they're meant to get you thinking. Every so often you find something on the internet which just interrupts how you think and see the world.
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