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No. 2497
Drawing from personal experience, some things enjoyed by girls I've been with who were into being dominated:
- If you want it, take it. Don't ask (within reason, obviously; it is implied that all of this is done within the context of a respectful relationship with a sensitivity to the limits of your partner), just do it. Fucking her missionary and want to take her from behind? Pull out, grab her hips, turn her over and then grab her by the hips and pull her up onto her hands and knees. Chances are she'll get what you're going for and move around for you; if not, just tell her "turn around... up on all fours."
- Give orders. Continuing from the above point, tell her what you want. Again, don't ask, express your desires clearly and directly with statements. Example: you're making out sitting on the couch. Push her off you, stand up, say "come here", when she gets up, push her down onto her knees and either take your dick out or tell her to take it out. After she's been going down on you for a while, if you want to sit down, walk over to a chair, sit down and say "come here." When you want to fuck her, say "I want to fuck you now."
- Pin her arms above her head. As for how to use handcuffs or similar restraints, there really isn't a "how." You just use them. Have a strip of cloth or handcuffs nearby, pin her arms above her head and tie her wrists together. Then keep fucking her. That's really all there is to it. Obviously there are all kinds of different ways to tie her (one wrist to each bedpost, wrists together and then tied to one bedpost, tied behind back, you could also try tying or handcuffing her on her knees to a doorknob and getting her to suck your dick like that, just to name a few possibilities)
- TELL HER WHAT TO WEAR TO TURN YOU ON. I don't think I've ever been with a girl who didn't like this once they tried it. Tell her you want her to dress up really slutty and greet you at the door. Tell her if you want her in a dress or a short skirt or tights, what kind of top you'd like to see, maybe lowcut, maybe something that shows her tummy, tell her what you'd like her to do with her makeup (maybe heavy eyeshadow and bright red lipstick). A lot of girls get really turned on knowing that they are turning you on, they want sex when they feel sexy. If she's really into this, you could even start doing it in a more public setting. Make plans to meet somewhere for drinks and tell her you want her to wear a certain outfit of hers with a certain type of panties underneath, do her hair up/down/in pigtails/braids/however you want it.
- Be daring with her in public. When walking home, push her into a corner somewhere and make out. Always be the one to stop it. Be in control. Kiss her for a bit, then stop and keep walking. Don't wait for her or tell her to come along, just stop and keep walking and let her catch up.
- If she's really daring, when you're out at a bar or restaurant or coffee shop or anywhere really, tell her to go into the bathroom, take off her panties, and come out and give them to you. I've only done this with a girl once, but she was absolutely soaked the whole time afterward.
- Name calling. Just go for it and see if she likes it. Most girls seem to have certain words they like and don't like. ie, I had an ex who loved being called a slut but didn't find the word "whore" very sexy, another loved being called whore, bitch, slut, skank, everything under the sun. It's also fun to mix sweet compliments with degrading dirty talk, "you beautiful little bitch" that kind of thing
- This last one seems like a bit of a niche thing, but I knew one girl who was really into this kind of thing. It's basically like sexy housewife play. She either is naked or gets all dolled up in heels and sexy clothes and does housework, cooking, cleaning, etc. while you watch TV or read or browse the internet. She brings you a beer, brings you snacks, makes sandwiches, etc. When she's done all the laundry, cleaning, etc. you inspect the house to make sure it is clean to your standards. Your standards, however, are impossibly high, so if you find a little bit of dust somewhere or anything, then she didn't do a good enough job and needs to be spanked. She can also do things like bring you a beer and give you a blowjob while you just sit there and watch TV. That kind of thing. Basically like you're both living in a really sexy, misogynist 1950s sitcom
The jist of this boils down to: know what you want and tell her or just take it. You are in charge so you lead things. You initiate, you stop it, you decide how and when and where, and lead her into it. That's the essence of being sexually dominant. The little details start to come naturally. Like any skill, OP, it takes practice, so hopefully this post helps you get into the right mindset and gives you some ideas to help you figure out how you like to be dominant and how she likes to be dominated. I'd say if she got excited by the handcuffs then either buy some or just find some scraps of fabric or a belt and just go for it. While making out, go get the belt/scarf/cuffs, come back, take her wrists, and tie them together. There's no real how to that kind of thing, you just do it.
Have fun!
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