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>>74652
I meant "poor" in the pitiable sense, not in the wealth sense. Many of these people do tend to be fairly well-off at least in some sense, which adds to their frustration when buying a pair of Oakleys doesn't mean women start falling over them.
Most of your questions are deep sociological issues, and since sociology is a soft science, there are many different explanations from many different philosophies, and even more potential reactions to those theories. These people are still individuals, and have individual profiles and stated reasons for what they do.
I can state my view and you can state yours, but it ultimately won't matter unless there's a broad consensus on it, which tends to be impossible on sociological and cultural issues.
Generally I think the following is the best way to explain it:
1) Media from day one bombards kids and young people with the idea that relationships are normal and healthy and sexual relationships are expected from young adults.
2) Virginity and sexlessness is the worst kind of existence, virgins are endlessly mocked in media, which means it gets mocked by peers. This isn't something that happens because of one movie or TV show, this is 20+ years of negative reinforcement.
3) You can avoid being a sexless loser if you got "game" or some magical attractive force. Any man can get any woman, we're told. If a woman isn't initially attracted to you, she just needs more persuading and wooing. If a girl dumps/friendzones you, it's okay, TV says that you'll get back together in a later season.
4) When none of these things turn out to be true, it's crushing and frustrating because none of it seems like your fault. Things were supposed to work a certain way and it didn't. You bought a new shiny iPad that worked perfectly in the store but when you took it home it maced you in the face.
5) You find people with similar experiences as you, echo chamber ensues while everyone pretends everyone else but them is the problem and all these people are just noble misunderstood men. The fact that society shuns you, a paragon of do-ballzaery, is proof that society is sick and needs you to either disassociate with it or kill people to change it. The fact that you'll be talked about non-stop for 2 straight weeks helps.
Of course, some people might complain: you're putting too much stock in the media! TV shows aren't that influential! Well in some cases I think we underestimate the media's influence. Even in the olden days when people told stories, they were still forced to interact with others, that was still the vast majority of the way you learned how to deal with people, by dealing with people. Now there is a serious gap between the way fiction portrays human interaction and the way interaction works in real life. Most people are sociable and adaptive enough to separate these things out and become functioning humans, but especially for people who already have emotional problems, this disconnect can hack the brain and cause weird things to happen.
I might talk about this with a certain kind of authority because I've never personally had a lot of interest in sexual relationships or sex with other people in general (this makes me an asexual or "graysexual" according to tumblr), and yeah, relationshipless/virgin/sexless shaming is pretty heavy everywhere. This isn't "games and movies cause misogyny and shootings omg!!!" this is programming in everything, even kid's comedies. Now imagine how frustrating it is when someone isn't asexual or voluntarily celibate, and you can imagine the amount of frustration that would come as a result.
>>74653
It's certainly not a silver bullet, but again, with all the "hurr hurr virgin = worst thing ever" crap out there, simply providing someone as easier path to have sex might at least alleviate some of the frustration. It won't stop people from being desperate or isolated, because that's impossible to stop fully, but it is something at least.
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