Oh, also, my girlfriend is threatening to leave me if I don't move out of my parents' house because she says it makes me a bum. My psychiatrist has also expressed concern for my mental well-being at this point.

However, like I said, DAMN, the job offer I got overseas is really fucking good...

I come from a dysfunctional family and I still live at home. My brother and father no longer live here, but living with my mother is still very trying. I am leeching off of her through my depression and negligence to care for life, but everyday is a battle to fight her manipulation and anger issues and tendency to cause arguements for the sake of them.

I've been in this house my whole life man. I've seen my family do nothing but bicker and destroy each other day after day, and it does not go anywhere. It is incredibly unproductive. I blame myself for my downfalls, but I sure as fuck would have an easier time getting by if I wasn't trying to control my latent urges to be an aggressive abusive male.

I'd advise you to move out. I think if you got away, you would feel better. It will be harder, but you will adapt to deal with the separation and handling shit on your own. You'll enjoy your independence more, and you won't have to deal with the constant pressure of having a fucked up family causing stress and unwarranted aggression. Your girlfriend sounds a little harsh with deeming you a bum (from my point of view, I don't know anything about your relationship), but she probably has a point. You are attached to something that is bringing you down. It will only continue to do so.

I hope I helped out somewhat. It's too late for me. It isn't for you. Get out.

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>my girlfriend is threatening to leave me if I don't move out of my parents' house because she says it makes me a bum

Leave her. What kind of worth does her "love" have if it's conditional to whether you have a place of your own or not? What kind of (non-marital) relationship revolves around you being able to provide? She's not looking for a boyfriend, she's looking for a surrogate dad.

Alright maybe I'm being too harsh but you probably get my point.

>Well, I got 2 offers: 1) a job offer to go teach English summer school overseas in a province a couple hours east of Moscow, won't pay well but it'll still look great on my resume for grad school...
I don't want to sound discriminative, although that's hard to achieve in this era of Ultra Policital Correctness, but I cannot recommend Russia to anyone.
>that means I'd have to stay a little while longer with my family and endure the unpredictable rage of my father, the constant screaming matches, and everyone's manipulative behavior while I save up money for airfare and such.
Especially since this sentence tells me it's not worth it.

>2) My friend wants me to move downtown and get a nice but inexpensive place with him, near my job and near to an area with lots of Russian, Ukrainian, Moldovan, and Serbian immigrants who I could tutor with my TEFL certificate.
This sounds like the more sensible choice.

This is all just my opinion please do not feel I'm an authority on this subject.

>but I cannot recommend Russia to anyone.

I'm studying Russia (and Russian) in grad school, and I had a great time the 2 months I stayed in Moscow, sooo... Different strokes for different folks, I guess. I personally love it over there.

But otherwise, yes, your advice is pretty sound. And yes, I'm thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend now, or letter her break up with me (which I think she's been hinting at anyway).

Thank you both.