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LIQUOR, ALL THE TIME

If you want to be socially successful you have to force yourself to try. Difficult at first, but becomes much easier once the ball is rolling. Try asking someone to study with you for a difficult class at your college, or drink/smoke/play vidjya/go hiking with you, whatever it is you kids do for fun. Whatever it is you're interested in, there's someone else interested in it that wants to do it with other people.

Stop overthinking things, try to take initiative and be friendly, and just do it. Also start regular exercise if you don't already, its effect on the mind is often underestimated.

I'm in a similar boat as you, however my problem is that i am very visible in public and it is very uncomfortable for me. The way I choose to dress is not exactly normal and even if nobody is giving me looks or treating me funny I still feel self conscious because I don't look the way i want to look. I mostly avoid humans and get my interactions in through text online. Sometimes webcams with old pals but not often. I do have advice though!

If you aren't a huge target for people like me and you skirt under the radar you should try to feel grateful for that. I would change my appearance if I could but it takes a long time for suck things to happen. If you don't fucking hate yourself every second because of your image and how you are seen by the world you already have a step up on me, and I go out there and try.

I don't do it stupidly though. I have an OKC profile that is very explicitly marked ina lot of places for friends only and I have gotten some feedback. I even met a cool person to hang out with and it was was. My anxiety prevents me from hangout out again because I always find ways of keeping myself busy but I have found comfort in my solitude. Best way to make friends in highschool? Smoke some goddamned pot. Just ask people that look dirty and smoke cigarettes if you don't already smoke like a champ.It's safe and everyone does it and it feels good and music is better and food etc. If you CANNOT FUCKING BE SOCIAL do what I do and dedicated yourself to mutliple demanding hobbies and give them your all. I am training in starcraft and I make electronic music. It's something, and the emotions only fuel me.

My most honest advice is that people fucking suck, find some nice boy or girl that wants to lick your private parts and then let them. Stick it through with them, maybe see some other friends every once i a while but just get into a relationship. All of them take work on both ends, far more than a normal friendship, but they are far more rewarding. What the fuck has a friend ever done for me? Given me a ride when I was stranded? Bought me a meal without my asking? Asked about soemthing because they care, not as a way of taking about themselves? Friends are great but they don't ever owe you anything and the whle prase about fidning out who your friends really hare though tough times is bullshit. You either have family blood or not and they are always there or you have people looking our for themselves. Sometimes they can look out for you adn them for a little bit but it always comes back to them felling the SAME AS YOU and not having any friends and being lonely and feelings like shit so they do something jackassy and drives wedges in your friendship. THink of the pain you are in, they think of what you would do to escape it. Everyone else feels the same way if nto worse and is doing shit to fix it. A lot of people do bad shit to fix it and you end up getting hurt even worse.

Be strong. Masturbate. Work out. Develop a hatred for the people around you that walk through life witht heir eyes closed, everything handed to them. The people you see that are 'happy' are just ignorant. Ignorance is not bliss, it's ignorance. Bliss is being above the bullshit mentall and strong enough to hold yourself up emotionally under duress. It feels good to balance on one foot. Once you can stay in a still position and you find your center you can even move around with your foot on the ground, btu still completely stable. Masters of martial arts can punch and kick while standing on 1 toe, why can't you even stand on 2 feet? many people grow up without families, without enough food, without blankets. It's douchey of me to tell you to humble yourself but follow me for a second. If they can walk through that difficulty you can walk through the blessing of not being burdened by leeches. I remember thinking I was missing something. It wasn't until after I was maxing hard drugs alone on the verge of OD that I realised I had found that I was lookign for the entire time. I always felt like if I stayed higher for 15 more minutes, if i took 1 more hit, or if i mixed 1 more thing in i would hit the nirvana point. Well i did a bunch of times and I never thought of it as 'as good as it gets' because that is a misnomer. I remember desperatly chasing after older kids to hang out with them because i eard them recounting stories on lunch period about the funnshit shit that happened during a smoke session after school. It was an in joke and i was out. I got in eventually but the mark is always moving. College parties are where it's at,m youre missing out just you wait! Oh college sucks wait until youa re 21! the bars are the things! Oh bars? Those are so 80s. You need to try this new nightclub! Oh that old place, here come with me to my suite in vegas!

All those people will always be trying to push it to a new limit because they are chasing the same feeling of the 'top'. They don't want to 'miss out' on the good things in life.

Fuck that, go kiss girls and touch their butts. Don't break hearts but also think of it this way. If you chase all the friends who are all chasing the same thing, none of you have what you are looking for. Nobody is actually paying attention to anything non superficial. It's all about image. I remeber when I became the 'popular kid' in highscoll, people would text me all day and I would say I was busy right then but i would reply as soon as i had a second

I was at home alone calling up all the people I thought were cool adn they were fedding me the same line i feed the people lookign for the cool kid. It's all a game and bullshit. Worse it's set up by children. Name 1 thing from highschool that matters. Calculus? Ben the senior kid with the car? Miss brown's english class because sometimes she wears a low cut shirt? All of that is bullshit meant to waste your time. The school system was conceived around 100 years ago in it's modern authoritarian form and it makes no sense. Have you ever learned something meaningful in 1 hour? No. in a 1 hour class you scratch the surface of an idea. that why college classes are usually much longer. They actually teach. The school system is deliberately impractical. It wastes your time and holds you back them gives you a garbage peice of paper that is the same as if you take a test meant for Spanish speaking 16 year olds. I never got as or bs and i aced the fucking ged first time i tried it. All the info is ON THE TEST. Highschool is easy, it's fake, all the cool kids are the saddest ones and nobody actually has any real fun because they are always looking over theuir backs when they laugh to make sure they are not the only one. Nobody is a real person, and nobody will care enough about you to WORK on themselves to become real. Ever catch yourself saying some bullshit halfways though ti coming out of your mouth? DO you correct yourself? The fuck would you it doesn't matter right. Well if you care about somebody else a lot then you tend to watch your mouth and start to think critically. You start to share ideas instead of debate the best one.


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I guess what I am saying is fuck everyone. Here is what you do. Get some style. Be clean cut, wear a simmilar theme every day. Don't talk to people unless they talk to you, and if they do act busy but give them honesty. If you don't talk to talk say so. if you are interested ask questions and make eye contact with people. But be distant. That is the trick

Everyone will see you as different. even if they don't realize it themselves. Simply make the conscious decision not to waste your time with bullshit. You really DONT have time. If you are only genuine and real to people, you ask questions and if you get asked answer them truthfully and, you listen and you don't put on the air of desperation people will open up to you casually as you open up casually to them. People might start tellintg you how they feel if you fell them how you feel about things. And I don't mean 'how you feel about current events the world ot obama" I mean if somebody asks you how you are and it's not the best day you say exactly that and nothing more unless they ask you. You'll get a reputation REAL quick for being different, you can either take this to a creepy place or a really sexy place. Creepy is when you try too hard. If you cultivate an attitude that you would like to see in people and make that how you interact with the world like minded people will find you non abrasive and refreshing. Since you don't cling to the outside of circles of people talking or try over and over again to hang out with 'cool' people,everyone else who is doing that will be attracted to you because you will seem to have it figured out. You will know the secret, and that secret is that you're the only person worth your time. If youre into girls they get off on the opposite attention that they normally get. If they are used to the role of lots of attention super hot popular commanding people around and having everyone always be tagging along then when you treat her like the normal ass person she is without anythign exceptionally interesting about her she will flip her shit and not understand and either try to prove you wrong to validate herself <usually by friendzoning you because most guys will think she wants to prove she is special by fucking and they as sopon as they want it and she knows it's friendzone because then she is the one choosing and therefore not ugly or boring or non special. So you don't let that happen and you either become a real person to her because you force her to chase you and then you are only honest and genuine, or option 3 she does not give a fuck about you and wouldn't either way so it doesn't matter

I guess i'm saying the only way to be cool is to be cool. It's not about the clothes, or the style, or even the friends. Being cool might get you friends that end up being real people and cool for life. But better than that you avoid loser trash doucghebags that would use you and put you in uncomfortable positions while actually ridding yourself of the need to not by lonely.

Nurture your loneliness, make it strong like goku's tail. Even if it never becomes a strength and you are always in pain and you can never truly escape the need for companionship, you can train yourself to function through that until you can find an alternate way to rid yourself of the pain.

If you don't want a relationship develop a realtionship with yourself. Go on walks, take yourself out to meals, write a journal, talk to yourself, hug a pillow, cry and then rub your own back. Give yourself what you would get from somebody else. It's fucking wierd but it works. Talk to yourself in the third person to motivate yourself or to say things you know but need to process out verbally. Exercise. Get good at something and perfect it.

I love you, anonymous for you are me. You will be fine angel, the person you are looking for is waiting for you and they arn't waiting in a group of people, they are waiting alone in their room like you are. You never know when you will meet them, so you have to be genuine so that when they meet you they actually meet you and not a facade you ahve put on for your 'friends'. Learn the art of conversation. It has it's own techniques and sytles. Learn how to ask a girl/guy out the right way. "I think you are pretty, I would like to take you out to specific activity on specific time on specific day. Will you come with me?". Stutter it out to some older women that will laugh at you and make you feel really bad about yourself so that when you do it to the pretty girl you have already experienced the adrenaline rush before.

Whoops re fucking read your shit and you're on college? Same exact thing. people make a beeline from senior year to freshman year without growing up 1 fucking bit. Maybe you know how to do relationships and i'm an asshole and you just want friends. Matybe I got burned and i'm projecting and ranting. Maybe a lot of things.

If you really want me to tell you how to make friends with their bullshit and double standards and cheating ways it's easy. Do activities. Join a card game group or a video game thing. Go to ananime convention. Go to a reddit meetup or a tech conference. So see an AA speaker. Bring a Frisbee to the beach and see if anybody will catch it. Buy a doggie and walk it in parks and on the sidewalk in the nice part of town and talk to whoever smiles. Not like stop and talk just become a regular. Go to a strip club! Join FetLife and hit up a munch! I already said OKCupid! Craigslist strictly platonic, post and reply! Go to an arcade! gO Go to a lan event! Go to a sporting game! Go hiking on a trail and be friendly to people you pass and walk slowly sdo people can pass you and meet you. Go to a mall and wear a shirt that says "talk to me" or even "talk to me about *topic*" join irc networks and meet poeplethat way! I know like 30 people that I consider close friends on 99cahn irc. Make something and put it in an art galley. Do tumblr or make a blog and post links to it on campus. Start a fucking campus group or join one. Pretend to be mute and speak only through a computer device like hawking until you break out into song one day. Do something, if you really want to meet people. You can do it. I'm fucking hideous and a monster and somehow I don't get burned at the state every time I go out in public so for you it should be all the more easier. You are comfortable with your identify, right? You know who you are?

Man I am fucking going off, I ate some speed so I hope you got something out of this. Just be a tough motherfucker and as soon as you no longer need anythign it will come to you with ease you would be shocked by.